Who is the most confident person you know?

Do you ever feel like you’re surrounded by people with unshakeable confidence, while you just go through the motions? That nagging feeling that everyone else has it figured out, except you? Let’s break down the myth of effortless confidence.

The truth is, most of us doubt ourselves periodically. We have insecurities, bad days, and moments where we question our worth. It’s part of being human. But sometimes, this feeling of being a fraud can weigh heavily on our shoulders. That’s the thing about confidence: we often assume it’s a trait you either have or you don’t.

So, who IS the most confident person I know?

Honestly, it’s the people who don’t shy away from messy feelings. They acknowledge the sting of self-doubt, but instead of letting it control them, they choose to move forward despite it.

Here’s the shift I’ve started to see confidence as:

• A practice; not a personality trait. It’s something we cultivate, day in, day out.
• A muscle you strengthen. Every time you speak up in a meeting, put effort into a project, or take a chance – that builds confidence.
• A mindset, not a feeling. It’s choosing to believe in yourself and your worth, even when you feel the fear.

Tips to start nurturing your inner confidence:

• Talk kindly to yourself: Practice positive self-talk, just as you would with a friend.
• Own your achievements: No matter how small, celebrating your wins reinforces your abilities.
• Surround yourself with support: Connect with people who uplift and encourage you.
• Focus on growth, not perfection: Progress is always more powerful than a flawless facade.

Remember, confidence isn’t about never having doubts. It’s about allowing them to exist, without letting them define you. Let’s ditch the pressure for perfection and embrace authentic, ever-evolving confidence!